focusing too much on love

From the moment we’re born, we’re exposed to love, relationships, marriage, etc. We become accustomed to events such as Valentines Day, we see films where the entire goal is finding love and so many songs that we hear are tailored towards these topics.

This gives us the impression that the world revolves around love and relationships. This is why so many men see a certain woman as the end goal.

They believe that if they landed the woman of their dreams, then life would be perfect.

But this is a serious issue that can eat your life away and hold you back.

 

What Happens When You Land Her?

The sad thing is, most men don’t land the woman of their dreams, which is dangerous because it hooks them into constantly chasing her.

We all want what we can’t get. If something is unavailable then it drives us crazy, it almost seems God like or way out of our means.

This is why so many men stare at the pictures of the women they wish they could be with, because they know these women are constantly out of reach.

In an interview with Joe Rogan, Dan Bilzerian spoke about never getting any women in his youth, but being able to get pretty much any woman he wants now he’s doing big things.

He spoke about the difference in mindset once these women became attainable. They suddenly seemed normal to him.

I remember when we first started MSI. We began contacting some of the most beautiful women to feature in our girl of the week section.

The strange thing was, as soon as these women contacted us back and were willing to work with us, they suddenly felt less attractive.

The moment these women became accessible, they became human. After a few messages back and forth you realise that even the girl of your dreams is just a normal person and no better than you.

 

Love Isn’t The End Goal

If feels as though so many people treat love, relationships and marriage as the end goal in life. Everything they do is geared up to these features.

They would give up everything they currently have if they could exchange it for a beautiful woman who they could call their own.

They say that men are only as loyal as their options. But I also think that men only become life aware once they have options.

Love, relationships and marriage are great additions if your life is already good, but having these features as your end goal is small scale thinking.

 

Disposable Pleasures

Something that’s always stuck with me was a line from James Bond Casino Royale.

James gets accused of treating women like disposable pleasures. This may not be ethically correct, but it seems like something that’s slowly becoming a feature of the modern world.

With so many people cheating, marriages breaking down and a whole world of women to see, sticking with one does seem illogical.

This isn’t to say that love is dead, but perhaps it deserves less of your attention. After all, the average married man isn’t happy. Most are in fact savagely depressed.

Love, relationships and marriage are like movie sequels. You rush in expecting the best but it’s never as good as you’d hoped.

This isn’t a real issue when you have more than this going on in your life, but when you make your entire life about finding love, or the pursuit of a life partner, it’s a bitter pill to swallow and it has too much power over you.

The disposable pleasure aspect is how a lot of top level men live. Instead of making women and love the centre of their universe. They instead use women as an additional feature to add into the mix.

When you’re putting together a party, you tick certain boxes in order to complete the atmosphere. You’ll get a DJ, alcohol, a venue, etc.

Top level men treat women in the same way. They may be driving through Paris in an expensive car, wearing a custom fitted suit, on a sunny day with their favourite music playing. What’s missing? A beautiful woman, so they add one to the mix.

The love aspect is more like a bonus to everything else, rather than the main focus. Seeing men depressed about not being in a relationship or not experiencing love really frustrates me.

When there’s so many more aspects of life to enjoy, why would you place everything on this single component? Instead of letting your life revolve around love or the pursuit of women, focus on so much more and remove that pressure/torture.

If you can’t go a month without being in a relationship then you may just be mentally and emotionally unstable. Love is great but it’s easy to find.

Terms such as “The One” aren’t good for our health. To think that there’s a single woman out of 3.5 billion who was made for you is very strange.

Become more relaxed about women, love and relationships, put it to the back of your priorities. Focus instead on you, focus on enjoying life, being around good company, doing what you want to do and so forth.

You can spend your entire life chasing love and your perfect woman, only to realize that it wasn’t as great as you expected once you got it.

Anything that has that much power over your emotions is dangerous and must be controlled. The happiest men in the world are those who are cold-hearted and aloof about the whole subject of women.

It’s hard to understand this concept until you see things from the other-side of the fence. The girl of your dreams becomes just one more who’s chasing you once you start doing big things, and it becomes very hard to appreciate love when it’s so attainable with pretty much anyone you choose.

It’s cold, but it’s better than being dragged through the dirt by woman after woman for the rest of your life. I know great guys with the best intentions who have had their lives destroyed by women multiple times, and yet they keep falling for the pursuit of love.

This wouldn’t happen if women, love and relationships were given less importance.

Just remember what Don Draper said in Mad Men…

Don Draper is an ad man, which should tell you everything you need to know!

Everything you think you know about love, has been manufactured by the people who wanted to find a way to make money off your emotions.

From the moment we’re born, we’re exposed to love, relationships, marriage, etc. We become accustomed to events such as Valentines Day, we see films where the entire goal is finding love and so many songs that we hear are tailored towards these topics.

This gives us the impression that the world revolves around love and relationships. This is why so many men see a certain woman as the end goal.

They believe that if they landed the woman of their dreams, then life would be perfect.

But this is a serious issue that can eat your life away and hold you back.

 

What Happens When You Land Her?

The sad thing is, most men don’t land the woman of their dreams, which is dangerous because it hooks them into constantly chasing her.

We all want what we can’t get. If something is unavailable then it drives us crazy, it almost seems God like or way out of our means.

This is why so many men stare at the pictures of the women they wish they could be with, because they know these women are constantly out of reach.

In an interview with Joe Rogan, Dan Bilzerian spoke about never getting any women in his youth, but being able to get pretty much any woman he wants now he’s doing big things.

He spoke about the difference in mindset once these women became attainable. They suddenly seemed normal to him.

I remember when we first started MSI. We began contacting some of the most beautiful women to feature in our girl of the week section.

The strange thing was, as soon as these women contacted us back and were willing to work with us, they suddenly felt less attractive.

The moment these women became accessible, they became human. After a few messages back and forth you realise that even the girl of your dreams is just a normal person and no better than you.

 

Love Isn’t The End Goal

If feels as though so many people treat love, relationships and marriage as the end goal in life. Everything they do is geared up to these features.

They would give up everything they currently have if they could exchange it for a beautiful woman who they could call their own.

They say that men are only as loyal as their options. But I also think that men only become life aware once they have options.

Love, relationships and marriage are great additions if your life is already good, but having these features as your end goal is small scale thinking.

 

Disposable Pleasures

Something that’s always stuck with me was a line from James Bond Casino Royale.

James gets accused of treating women like disposable pleasures. This may not be ethically correct, but it seems like something that’s slowly becoming a feature of the modern world.

With so many people cheating, marriages breaking down and a whole world of women to see, sticking with one does seem illogical.

This isn’t to say that love is dead, but perhaps it deserves less of your attention. After all, the average married man isn’t happy. Most are in fact savagely depressed.

Love, relationships and marriage are like movie sequels. You rush in expecting the best but it’s never as good as you’d hoped.

This isn’t a real issue when you have more than this going on in your life, but when you make your entire life about finding love, or the pursuit of a life partner, it’s a bitter pill to swallow and it has too much power over you.

The disposable pleasure aspect is how a lot of top level men live. Instead of making women and love the centre of their universe. They instead use women as an additional feature to add into the mix.

When you’re putting together a party, you tick certain boxes in order to complete the atmosphere. You’ll get a DJ, alcohol, a venue, etc.

Top level men treat women in the same way. They may be driving through Paris in an expensive car, wearing a custom fitted suit, on a sunny day with their favourite music playing. What’s missing? A beautiful woman, so they add one to the mix.

The love aspect is more like a bonus to everything else, rather than the main focus. Seeing men depressed about not being in a relationship or not experiencing love really frustrates me.

When there’s so many more aspects of life to enjoy, why would you place everything on this single component? Instead of letting your life revolve around love or the pursuit of women, focus on so much more and remove that pressure/torture.

If you can’t go a month without being in a relationship then you may just be mentally and emotionally unstable. Love is great but it’s easy to find.

Terms such as “The One” aren’t good for our health. To think that there’s a single woman out of 3.5 billion who was made for you is very strange.

Become more relaxed about women, love and relationships, put it to the back of your priorities. Focus instead on you, focus on enjoying life, being around good company, doing what you want to do and so forth.

You can spend your entire life chasing love and your perfect woman, only to realize that it wasn’t as great as you expected once you got it.

Anything that has that much power over your emotions is dangerous and must be controlled. The happiest men in the world are those who are cold-hearted and aloof about the whole subject of women.

It’s hard to understand this concept until you see things from the other-side of the fence. The girl of your dreams becomes just one more who’s chasing you once you start doing big things, and it becomes very hard to appreciate love when it’s so attainable with pretty much anyone you choose.

It’s cold, but it’s better than being dragged through the dirt by woman after woman for the rest of your life. I know great guys with the best intentions who have had their lives destroyed by women multiple times, and yet they keep falling for the pursuit of love.

This wouldn’t happen if women, love and relationships were given less importance.

Just remember what Don Draper said in Mad Men…

Don Draper is an ad man, which should tell you everything you need to know!

Everything you think you know about love, has been manufactured by the people who wanted to find a way to make money off your emotions.